Women in ISKCON in Prabhupada's Times
by Jyotirmayi Devi Dasi
Reposted November 29, 2002
[Originally posted on Chakra on January 22, 1998]
Historical Report: From about 1965 up to 1974, when Srila Prabhupada had to
get less and less involved in temple management because of translating work
and the tremendous increase of disciples and temples, the women devotees'
situation changed very little from what Srila Prabhupada had originally
established. From 1974 their situation started to significantly deteriorate
and got worse very fast until it reached its paroxysm before Srila
Prabhupada's departure.
When Prabhupada decided to accept women in the movement, he did so according
to the reasoning he himself quotes in the Chaitanya Charitamrta, M.L., Ch.
23 purport of verse 105: "To broadcast the cult of Krishna Consciousness,
one has to learn the possibility of renunciation in terms of country, time
and candidate.....He must avoid the principle of niyamagraha, that is, he
should not try to perform the impossible. What is possible in one country
may not be possible in another. The acarya's duty is to accept the essence
of devotional service. There may be a little change here and a little change
there as far as yukta-vairagya (proper renunciation) is concerned...The
essence of devotional service must be taken into consideration, and not the
outward paraphernalia... A Vaishnava is immediately purified, provided he
follows the rules and regulations of his bonafide spiritual master. It is
not necessary that the rules and regulations followed in India be exactly
the same as those in Europe, America and other Western countries. Simply
imitating without effect is called niyamagraha. Not following the regulative
principles but instead living extravagantly is also called niyamagraha... We
should not follow regulative principles without an effect, nor should we
fail to accept the regulative principles. What is required is a special
technique according to country, time and candidate...."
Srila Prabhupada followed this reasoning concerning not only the acceptation
of women in the ashramas but also lots of other subject matters, such as the
practice of renunciation, which is being dealt with in the quotation,
preaching methods, only a partial introduction of Vedic culture, Deity
worship, etc.... Everything that he introduced or did not introduce was
deeply thought about and very carefully and logically analyzed. When he was
asked, several years later, if he would have preferred to establish the
movement differently, he answered that if it were to be done again he would
do it exactly the same way.
Despite the fact that he had been criticized several times in India because
of all the changes he was introducing, Srila Prabhupada kept them and
justified his position regarding the women devotees once more in the
Chaitanya Charitamrta A.L. ch. 7, purport of verses 32 and 38. "An acarya
who comes for the service of the Lord cannot be expected to conform to a
stereotype, for he must find the ways and means by which Krishna
Consciousness may be spread. Sometimes jealous persons criticize the Krishna
Consciousness movement because it engages equally both boys and girls in
distribution of love of Godhead. Not knowing that boys and girls in
countries like Europe and America mix very freely, these fools and rascals
criticize the boys and girls in Krishna Consciousness for intermingling. But
these rascals should consider that one cannot suddenly change a community's
social customs. However, since both boys and girls are being trained to
become preachers those girls are not ordinary girls but are as good as their
brothers who are preaching Krishna Consciousness. Therefore to engage both
boys and girls in fully transcendental activities is a policy intended to
spread the Krishna Consciousness movement... The results of this are
wonderful. Both men and women are preaching the gospel of Lord Chaitanya
Mahaprabhu and Lord Krishna with redoubled strength... Therefore it is a
principle that a preacher must strictly follow the rules and regulations
laid down in the shastras yet at the same time devise a means by which the
preaching work to reclaim the fallen may go with full force."
By accepting women in the temples and giving them the brahmacarini status,
Prabhupada was not pretending: he gave them all the same rights and duties
of the brahmacaris in the guru's ashrama. The same thing applied when he
gave them Brahman initiation. The women devotees had exactly the same
spiritual activities, the same tasks, the same possibilities to progress
spiritually and they were entitled to the same respect. At that time
everything was done according to the abilities and the spiritual advancement
of a person and not according to sex. Prabhupada did not make any
distinction.
* Women, as well as men, accompanied Prabhupada when he was traveling and
served him as secretaries, as did Arundhati, or served him personally as did
Janaki. * Women led kirtana's: Jamuna, Kausalya, Lilavati were amongst the
best. * They gave classes and public lectures. The most renowned was
Jadurani who was endowed with great erudition. * Women were in charge of the
Deities and performed public aratis. Jamuna, Shilavati, Rukmini, and
Mandakini were the most famous. * Men and women circumambulated Tulasi
together without mixing, forming a circle separated in two halves, one half
for the men, the other half for the women. * Women paid dandavats to
Prabhupada. * Women offered garlands to Prabhupada personally or to his
picture. * Women performed aratis to Prabhupada's picture on his vyasasana
during Guru-puja. * Women devotees were on one side of the temple room, men
devotees on the other side, during kirtanas as well as classes and japa. *
During Guru-puja, men and women offered flowers simultaneously to
Prabhupada, forming two lines, and women as well as men paid their obeisance
's in front of the vyasasana. * When Srila Prabhupada was personally
present, women as well as men could stand next to him. * During Harinamas
(called at that time sankirtanas), Prabhupada had asked that the women stand
between two groups of men, one in front and one behind so that they could be
protected. * Women wrote articles in magazines. Prabhupada personally asked
Bibhavati who had been a journalist previously, to do so. * As far as the
service of temple president was concerned, Srila Prabhupada included husband
and wife; he recommended that they be father and mother of the devotees they
were in charge of. * Women were doing things in front of Srila Prabhupada
himself that later on they were forbidden to do: Jamuna was leading kirtans
in front of him, Himavati gave public conferences, Jyotirmayi and Rukmini
performed arati in front of him. * Women had access to important
responsibilities: Jadurani was in charge of the BBT (Bhaktivedanta Book
Trust) painting department, Jamuna or Govinda dasi were proposed as the GBC
(Governing Body Commissioners) by Prabhupada, Kausalya organized pandals,
Varanasi was temple commander, Jyotirmayi BBT chief translator, etc. * The
grhasta status was very respected. Prabhupada was very proud of his couples
who were opening temples together. * Men and women chanted japa together in
the temple room during the morning program.
The positive results of the way Prabhupada was relating to his women
disciples will be presented later on, opposed to the negative results of the
decisions taken later on by the leaders, which are going to be discussed
now.
After the first six years of the movement, at the beginning of the 1970's, a
first change took place, which of course was not contested by anyone.
Instead of being mixed in the temple room without any distinction of sex,
men and women devotees were separated and were placed on each side of the
temple room. In 1973 a second change happened, not very important either,
but it was foreboding lots of other changes which were going to follow
faster and faster and cause lots of harm to the movement - women devotees
were forbidden to do dandavat.
Everything began in America and was imported in France only gradually from
around 1974. There, a note on the temple room door said that women devotees
were forbidden to lead kirtans or to give class. Then they were forbidden to
circumambulate Tulasi with men devotees, could not chant japa in the temple
room, had to stay behind the men in the temple during kirtans, classes,
Harinama. Each of their important responsibilities were removed, as well as
their right to offer aratis to Prabhupada. They were no longer authorized to
offer public arati (mangala and sundara arati) to the murtis, to go on the
altar and get close to the murtis. They could not pay obeisances in front of
the vyasasana anymore. They had to offer flowers after the men, and later
only after Guru-puja was over, etc., etc. Simultaneously with the status of
the women, the status of the married men was seriously depreciated, and
female children became a matter of shame.
As those new decisions were adopted, and instead of the simple separation
between men and women that Prabhupada wanted, a real segregation was taking
place, the women devotees went to see Prabhupada to tell him about it and
each time he asked that the standard that he had established remain the
same. Two times Jyotirmayi asked Prabhupada about her giving classes, once
verbally, another time in a letter; each time Prabhupada told her that it
was perfectly all right. Then Prabhupada left his body and there was no one
to appeal to any longer concerning this subject and others, even more
serious.
Then the effects of those restraints started to really upset the lives of
some of the women devotees. Shilavati for example, the most qualified pujari
of the movement at that time, had her service removed and was forbidden to
go on with the service in which she had put all her heart and soul for so
many years. Jyotirmayi also had her responsibility for the BBT removed and
today, more than 20 years later, she has to correct all the mistakes that
have been made when she could not supervise the work anymore. There are so
many other examples. On the whole these unfortunate effects swept away the
wonderful spirit established by Prabhupada. Questioned by Gurudas about the
difference of atmosphere between the first years and the subsequent ones,
Srila Prabhupada answered with regret: "Yes, before it was a family."
* Instead of brotherhood between men and women devotees, aggressiveness,
suspicion and fear appeared. * Instead of caring for one another, there was
nothing but indifference. * Instead of mutual respect, there was contempt of
the men for the women and of women amongst themselves. * Instead of
admiration for someone because of his/her material and spiritual abilities,
it was only according to the title and the position. * Submission to the
male authorities became blind and fanatical, tinged with "sexuality"
(creation of "groupies" and feminine "fan clubs.") * Instead of being
considered full-fledged devotees, women were considered only as "women" in
the most pejorative sense. * Women were not considered Brahmanas anymore
(except for the puja when this service was given back to them.) * Women
devotees did not consider men as sons anymore and men did not behave with
women as mothers but as enemies. * Instead of kindness, gentleness, and
courtesy amongst men and women devotees, wickedness, meanness and
impoliteness appeared. * Instead of sane and constructive criticisms aiming
at progressing, we could see a faultfinding mentality with an unhealthy
purpose. * Women were not recognized for their services, but often men
received the credit for them. * Instead of being accepted and utilized,
women's talents were discredited and rejected if they did not match the new
standard. * The idea came up not to give academic education to the girls,
but fortunately Prabhupada did not allow that to happen. * Women were
considered stupid and incapable and became subject to gross mockery. * Only
those who could collect were appreciated. * Instead of being seen as spirit
souls and godsisters, they were only considered as sex objects to be
rejected and avoided. * Adultery and illicit connections, which were excuses
to mistreat women devotees, increased instead of decreased. * Instead of
being admired by other women, and example to follow, a goal to reach,
intelligent and dynamic women became subject to scorn and malicious talks
from other women. * Spiritual practices of women weakened, enthusiasm went
down, and services suffered. * New devotee women, lacking outstanding
examples to follow, did not get anymore the motivation that leads to great
achievements, to the great detriment of Srila Prabhupada's mission. * Lots
of women lost the spirit of Prabhupada's mission. * According to their own
personality, women either indulged in an easygoing situation or lived in
frustration and discouragement.
It was more difficult for those who had known ISKCON at the beginning when
it was led by the kind but firm hand of Prabhupada, or those who had purely
followed his example, and for those who were in charge of important
services. * For most of the women who had not known the movement at the
beginning and not met Srila Prabhupada personally, these detrimental
psychological effects appeared without their being conscious of it because
they did not know anything else and had no other frame of reference. *
Belittled in such a way, lots of women lost confidence in themselves and in
their material and spiritual abilities, accepted being deprived of their
human dignity and played the part that was expected from them, being
brainless, ignorant, and unproductive. * Exceptionally active and
intelligent women, who were numerous in the beginning, no longer joined the
movement, and women's conditions in our temples became subject to very bad
press for our movement. *
Prabhupada's movement, so much in need of arms and heads to accomplish his
mission, thus lost a good amount of its strength because on one side the
potency of the women in the temple decreased and on the other side fewer
women joined the movement. * The marriages also suffered as a consequence of
this new mentality because women were considered nothing else but an object
for sensual desires and not as spiritual personalities anymore: relations
between spouses got worse and worse, deprived of the affection and mutual
respect required for the good harmony of a couple. * Women having been put
down, so was the married man, and internal quarrels between grhastas,
brahmacaris, and sannyasis started. * Children were of course last on the
list of priorities and were very neglected.
It may seem that I depict a very dark picture here, but everything can be
confirmed with lots of examples. However, we have to consider that those
events were more or less acute according to the temple, the country, and the
leader's personality. Most of those abuses took place in America; France was
less touched. Moreover, women devotees performing sankirtan (book
distribution) in France suffered a lot less because their situation was
always privileged and protected because of their service. This was not the
case in America, where unbelievable abuses took place. Moreover, even if
ISKCON was deviating from the original teachings regarding this aspect and
others, it kept its other qualities: it was still Lord Chaitanya's movement
and the path leading to Krishna, and those imperfections did not stop
sincere women from knowing great spiritual joys and progress despite all
obstacles. Fortunately the position of women has improved over the years.
2nd Part: Philosophical Arguments and Prabhupada's Practical Application
Reasons for this Debate: Many of the changes brought in the movement,
whether concerning the women or other vital elements of ISKCON, have done
great damage to the beauty and the greatness of Srila Prabhupada's
contribution to the world. Having known to a certain extent the movement
from almost its beginning (from 1969), a number of the first devotees and
Srila Prabhupada personally, I feel a responsibility to share this
experience with other, newer, devotees in order to help correct the faults
and give ISKCON back its original, wonderful nature.
Authoritativeness of this Endeavor: Convinced at heart and by practical
experiences that Prabhupada was not at the origin of the negative changes of
women's position in ISKCON, I personally asked Satsvarupa Maharaja and had
someone ask Brahmananda Prabhu, who both associated very intimately and for
long periods of time with Srila Prabhupada, if they had ever heard him
personally give instructions for these changes to occur. Both said no, that
they were instituted by the leading men of the movement.
After a lecture I gave on the subject during a Communications Seminar by
Mukunda Maharaja, I was asked by Maharaja to take the re-establishment of
the women's proper situation in ISKCON as a special mission.
Param Gati Maharaja, the GBC for France, fully backs up my endeavor for
informing the devotees about the way things were when Srila Prabhupada
directly managed the temples and trained the devotees and about the most
wonderful spirit he created.
Authenticity of the Proposed Arguments Our subject here deals with the
social application of Krishna Conscious principles, not with philosophical
knowledge. Therefore many of the arguments given here do not come from
Prabhupada's books but from conversations between Srila Prabhupada and his
disciples in daily encounters, most of which of course did not get recorded.
Many devotees do not trust these "Prabhupada said," but Prabhupada himself
gave his opinion about these "Prabhupada said." In a reunion in Mayapura in
1975, the GBC told Prabhupada: "There are so many "Prabhupada said," better
only accept what is in the books and tapes."
Srila Prabhupada answered: '"No, what I say in talks also, many things I say
are not in my books.'"(From Himavati.) My information is coming from a
notebook in which, all along the years, I noted the anecdotes related to me
by devotees who lived closely with Prabhupada or by devotees who received
these stories from these first disciples. My other stories, which are
irrefutable, are from Srila Prabhupada's letters.
Contradictory Statements Many devotees are puzzled by the many seemingly
contradictory statements appearing in Srila Prabhupada's books and talks,
while others choose to quote and act only upon those fitting their own
desires and conditioning while completely avoiding seeing their counterpart.
But devotees must learn, by analyzing scrutinizingly Srila Prabhupada's
teachings as a whole, to understand how Prabhupada in his great intelligence
and love knew how to change or adapt an instruction according to the
spiritual need in a particular time and place. In the following list of
anecdotes or quotes showing Srila Prabhupada's attitude towards women in
ISKCON, this kind of apparent contradiction will sometimes occur.
Equality and Equal Treatment Often pushed by his male disciples to minimize
ISKCON women's spiritual position, Srila Prabhupada reacted, for example, in
the following way: Srila Prabhupada: '"You dance, she dances. You sing, she
sings, you cook, she cooks, there is no difference. You are the same in
Krishna's eyes."
While during a darshan Srila Prabhupada had a brahmacari distribute a little
prasad to everyone present, the boy gave prasad to all the men and sat down.
Srila Prabhupada noticed that he did not serve the only two girls present
and said: "Give them also prasad. Why don't you serve them?"
Womanly Duties Srila Prabhupada often stressed that women take up
traditional roles: * "Girls who are living in New Vrindavan should be
engaged in the following activities: 1) "Taking care of the children, 2)
cleaning the temple, kitchen, etc., 3) cooking and 4) churning butter"
(letter to Labangalatika, 1969) * "A women's real business is to look after
household affairs, keep everything neat and clean. ....the women should be
sewing." (letter to Chaya Dasi, 1972) There is no doubt that householder
women, inside ISKCON or outside, recognize that cooking, cleaning, sewing,
taking care of children are their basic activities. As a mother, I myself
spend a good part of my time in these matters.
But the point is that a woman is not limited to these activities only, if
she has abilities for other activities, as will be shown by the following
quotes and anecdotes: * Bhibavati asked Srila Prabhupada "Should I live like
in the Vedic times, and simply serve my husband and child?" Srila Prabhupada
answered, "No, you have a talent as a writer, you should write articles for
newspapers and propagate Krishna Consciousness. (Bhibavati) * "You have good
writing capacity, and good artistic ability. Now devote your life to
chanting Hare Krishna and if possible write articles on Krishna
Consciousness, as many as possible with your own paintings and send it for
publication to Back to Godhead." (letter to Govinda Dasi, 1974) * "The
nursery school program is very good. That is good that the mothers are being
freed to increase their devotional service." (letter to Jayatirtha, 1975) *
"All the wives of our students should be trained up for Deity worship and
cooking, and when possible they should go on Sankirtana party with their
husband and others." (letter to Hamsadutta, 1970) * "I am very glad to know
that you are engaged as pujari there. Try to learn this art of arcana very
nicely. ..I wish that all our girl devotees be expert in the matter of
arcana..." (letter to Kanchanbala, 1970) *
When the service of Deity worship was being taken away from women, Srila
Prabhupada wrote, "Regarding women worshipping the Deity, in the
Bhagavad-gita it is stated: striyo vaisyas tathasudras, te 'pi yanti param
gatim. The idea is that everyone who is properly initiated and following the
rules and regulations can worship the Deity." (letter to Uttama Sloka, 1974)
* So far your question regarding women, I have always accepted the service
of women without any discrimination, so I have no objection if Yamuna devi
contributes her ideas on this construction project. Nothing should be done
without group consultation. (letter to Guru Das, 1972)
Women in Posts of Responsibility Many men were opposed to women being given
posts of responsibility and refused to work under them. * Atreya Rsi asked
Srila Prabhupada if women could be given great responsibilities. Srila
Prabhupada answered, "Yes, if they are Krishna Conscious." Then he gave the
example of Jahnava, the wife of Nityananda Prabhu, who took charge of the
whole Vaishnava community after Nityananda Prabhu's departure. (Atreya Rsi)
* "Chanakya Pandita said not to trust those who do not control their senses,
politicians and women. But this applies to non-devotee women, not our women,
because they do control their senses." (class in Los Angeles 1972) * When a
male devotee refused to be instructed by Jadurani, the head of the art
department, because of her being a woman, Prabhupada called him in and
ordered him to accept her instructions.
Womanly Qualities Favorable to Devotional Service * "A devotee should have
the courage of an English officer and the heart of a Bengali mother," Srila
Prabhupada used to say. * "Women are better than men because they can accept
any position." (Bhavatrini)
Women Leading Kirtans and Bhajanas "An important apparent contradiction
comes from a statement in the scriptures that a sannyasi and a brahmacari
should not hear a woman's voice. But Srila Prabhupada had men and women
chant japa together, women led kirtans in the temple and in public
engagements, and the women gave classes. * Srila Prabhupada had Yamuna (one
of our best singers) lead kirtans in front of crowds of guests and devotees,
which included of course sannyasis and brahmacaris. * Yamuna, Lilavati,
Kausalya, and later Parijata, Jyotirmayi and many others used to routinely
lead kirtans. * "I want to organize a women kirtan party singing the
Gita-Gan. Can you help me?" (letter to Gargamuni Maharaja, 1974) * In
France, when he noticed that Jyotirmayi could pronounce the Sanskrit better
than others (she had been taught by Nitai, his personal sanskrit secretary),
Srila Prabhupada said that from then on, she should lead the recitation of
the sanskrit verses before class. (Jyotirmayi, 1972)
* During his massage Prabhupada heard a letter from Jayasacinandana in Los
Angeles written on behalf of a group of brahmacaris. In every ISKCON temple
of the world the assembled devotees offer their obeisances to the Deities in
the morning as the Govindam prayers loudly play. George Harrison recorded
it, and Yamuna sings the mantras. Disturbed by this custom, Jaysacinandana
quoted Srila Bhaktivinoda Thakur (as well as Srila Prabhupada) that if a
brahmacari hears and is attracted to a woman's singing, it is a subtle fall
down. "In light of this, he wrote, many of the brahmacaris approached the
temple president to see if it would be possible that when the Deities are
greeted in the morning, instead of listening to Gurudasa Maharaja's former
wife singing the Brahma-samhita prayers, we could listen to Your Divine
Grace rather than hear a woman sing." He did not want to change the tape
because it has been a standard thing in ISKCON since 1970. "So requested by
many devotees, I am inquiring from Your Divine Grace if we could play a tape
recording of your singing instead of a woman when the Deities of Rukmini
Dvarkadhisha are greeted in the morning. I am sure that all the devotees
would be enlivened to hear you instead of electric guitars, the London
symphonic orchestra, etc., etc......"
Prabhupada was not pleased. He said that constantly changing things is "our
Western disease." His reply was short and direct. "No! You have made some
discovery. All along you have been hearing the recording of Yamuna dasi and
now you want to change. It is not ordinary singing, it is not concert. Many
people are singing, so it is not bad. Just like Sankirtana. I approve of it.
Here in the Krishna-Balarama temple we are hearing the same recording every
morning. So if it is good here, why not there?" (Hari Sauri, Dec 1975,
Vrndavan, "A Transcendental Diary.")
Women's Advancement * For a long period of time, women in ISKCON have been
considered unfit for real spiritual advancement. Their only hope was to
become men in their next life and start spiritual life from that point. *
"Regarding your question, yes woman can certainly reach the perfectional
stage of devotion to Krishna." (letter to Krishna Devi, 1969) * Srila
Prabhupada said about Yamuna in the early 70's that she had reached the
stage of bhava. * "In the Bhagavad-gita we find that women are also equally
competent like the men in the matter of Krishna consciousness movement."
(letter to Himavati, 1969) * We are Vaishnavas. We are not concerned with
male of female position in life. That is simply bodily concept of life. It
is not spiritual. Whether one is male or female, it does not matter, simply
chant Hare Krishna and follow the four regulative principles and your life
will be perfect." (letter to Jennifer, 1975) * It is not that women should
only produce children, but they are meant for advancing in devotion."
(letter to Jayatirtha, 1975)
Women As Dangerous For Men Many men in the movement have used various
scriptural statements on women's faults to rebuke and humiliate them, hinder
their service and advancement, or even try to drive them out of the
movement. * When Srila Prabhupada first said in a class that for a man,
association with a woman is dangerous because she makes him lose control
over his senses, the male devotees started acting very nastily with the
women of that particular temple. The ladies expressed their pain to
Prabhupada who then called in all the men and said: "I was talking of
materialistic women, not of the women of the movement. These are angels." *
Srila Prabhupada also said in another instance: "When we talk of women, we
do not talk about those of our movement because by associating with these
women, if they are Krishna Conscious, you will be liberated." (Madhavananda)
* A disciple of Swami Narayana said to Srila Prabhupada: "My spiritual
master said to avoid all women and to never go where there are women." Srila
Prabhupada laughed and said: "That is impossible, there are women
everywhere." Then, coming back to the temple and watching two women devotees
bow down to him, he said: "By associating with these women, you will be
purified." (Madhavananda) * On various occasions, brahmacaris complained to
Srila Prabhupada that they were agitated by the presence of women in the
temple, and Srila Prabhupada replied that if they could not restrain their
senses, they should go live alone in the forest. * "Regarding the
disturbance made by the women devotees, they are also living beings. They
also come to Krishna. So consciously I cannot deny them. If our male
members, the brahmacaris and sannyasis, if they become steady in Krishna
Consciousness, there is not problem. It is the duty of the male members to
be very steady and cautious." (letter to Gargamuni Swami, 1975)
Women's Wellbeing For years men were always given the best facilities (as
far as living quarters, chanting japa, sitting places in a van or at
festivals, prasad, etc.) while the women got what was left. But Srila
Prabhupada was always concerned that the women be well protected and taken
care of. * During the Gaura Purnima festival in Vrndavana, Yamuna fell sick.
Srila Prabhupada had her stay with him until she got better. (Yamuna) * In
1974, Palika lived in India with Prabhupada, her husband having taken
sannyasa. While she was taking care of Prabhupada in his office, Srila
Prabhupada noticed that her sari had a hole and said, "I am going to buy a
sari. Yours is all torn." As she protested, he continued: "Your husband
Bhavananda has now taken sannyasa; therefore I shall give you some money."
(Dinatarine) * Srila Prabhupada was informed that there was no running water
in the women's living quarters in Bombay for a long time, as the plumbing
needed repairs. Srila Prabhupada called in the leaders and said: "You are
always talking of big big things and you do not see that these simple things
are being taken care of." * Srila Prabhupada wanted that for Sankirtana
(chanting in the street), women stay in the middle to be protected.
Women's Level of Intelligence Srila Prabhupada's statement and the
scriptures' statements about the women being less intelligent has brought a
lot of misunderstanding and men's ruthless behavior towards women. But what
does "less intelligent" exactly mean? * kalau sudra sambhavat: in the age of
Kali, everyone is sudra. In the Vedic times, women were considered on the
same level as vaisyas and sudras. The brahmanas and ksatriyas of those days
were so elevated that women were no doubt on an inferior level. But in
Kali-yuga, men have degraded to the level of the women, everyone being
sudra, and cannot pose themselves as highly superior anymore. * In
Bhagavad-gita (3, 42-43), Krishna says: "The working senses are superior to
dull matter, mind is higher than the senses, intelligence is still higher
than the mind, and he (soul) is even higher than the intelligence....one
should steady the mind by deliberate intelligence." According to this
definition, an intelligent person is one who is able to control the mind
with his intelligence. The mind's activities are thinking, feeling, willing.
Therefore it can be concluded that a woman is less intelligent because she
has harder time to control her emotions than a man. But it does not mean
that a woman is totally deprived of most intelligence, as it has
unfortunately often been established in the movement. It is not that one
goes from the most intelligent man down to the most stupid, and then only
comes the most intelligent women down to the most stupid. If we rate men and
women's intelligence on a scale, it is not that man's intelligence occupies
the highest section and women's the lowest, but rather, the two overlap. Of
course, it is certainly true that if one takes the most intelligent men in
the world and the most intelligent women, the men might be on a higher level
than the women."
*There are various facets of intelligence- intelligence as controller of the
mind, material intelligence, spiritual intelligence - and various
definitions. Srila Prabhupada once defined it as "sharp memory and good
discrimination." The following examples illustrate its different meanings: *
Srila Prabhupada said to a lady disciple: "Well, if you think you are a
woman that means you are less intelligent, because you are suppose to
understand that you are a spirit soul and that your real identity is
transcendental to these bodily designations." (Sadaputa) * When Srila
Prabhupada was asked if Jyotirmayi should finish her studies in ethnology
(study of religions and cultures) in order to teach Vaisnavism in the
universities, he answered, "Yes, she is very intelligent girl, she can do
it." (Yogesvara) * "Another examination will be held sometime in 1971 on the
4 books, Bhagavad-gita, Srimad Bhagavatam, Teachings Of Lord Chaitanya and
the Nectar of Devotion. One who will pass this examination will be awarded
the title Bhakti-vedanta. I want that all my spiritual sons and daughters
will inherit this title of Bhakti-vedanta, so that the family transcendental
diploma will continue through the generations. Those possessing the title of
Bhakti-vedanta will be allowed to initiate disciples. Maybe by 1975 all my
disciples will be allowed to initiate and increase the number of
generations. That is my program." (letter to Hamsadutta, 1968) * "Regarding
your questions about the examination to be given, the girls will also be
able to take these. In Krishna Consciousness there is no distinction between
girls and boys. The girls also may become preachers if they are able."
(letter to Himavati, 1969) * "Now I see that in our Society the girls are
more intelligent than the boys." (Letter to Krishna Devi, 1970)
Women As Preachers For many years, women have been forbidden to give classes
to all devotees in the temple room, to give Sunday lectures to guests,
whereas those were common practices from the beginning of the movement to
about 1973-74.
* "Regarding lecturing by women devotees: I have informed you that in the
service of the Lord there is no distinction of caste, or creed, color or
sex...... We require a person who is in knowledge of Krishna, that is the
only qualification of a person speaking. It does not matter what he is.
Materially a woman may be less intelligent than a man, but spiritually
everyone is pure soul. In the absolute plane there is no gradation of higher
and lower. If a woman can lecture nicely and to the point, we should hear
her carefully. That is our philosophy. But if a man can speak better than a
woman, the man should be given the first preference..." (letter to Jaya
Govinda, 1968) * "Jadurani has now become a nice preacher, I have report
from Satsvarupa that she gives lectures very nicely. If we open a pavilion,
I shall take Jadurani also at that time so she will deliver nice lectures."
(letter to Mahapurusa, 1968.) * "So far as girls or boys lecturing in the
morning, that does not make any difference. Either girl or boy devotee may
deliver lecture if they choose to do. We have no such distinction of bodily
designations, male or female. Krishna Consciousness is on the spiritual
platform. As such, anyone who is a devotee of the Lord, following in this
line of disciplic succession, can deliver lecture on the teachings of
Bhagavad-gita, Srimad Bhagavatam, etc." (letter to Syama Dasi, 1968) *
Srila Prabhupada had Himavati give public lectures in front of crowds of
people in India. * From 1973-74, when stopping women from giving classes
began to spread from temple to temple, country to country, different women
went to Prabhupada for help. * "You can also keep giving Bhagavatam class if
you like. Women in our movement can also preach very nicely. Actually male
and female bodies, these are just outward designations; Lord Chaitanya said
that whether one is brahmana or whatever he may be, if he knows the science
of Krishna, then he is to be accepted as guru." (letter to Malati, 1974)
*Excerpt from a conversation about varnashrama dharma between Srila
Prabhupada, Yogesvara, and Jyotirmayi, 1974, France.
SP: Woman is to help her husband.
JM: So the duty of the brahmana is to preach. It is to learn the philosophy.
SP: Yes, to learn and to preach.
JM: And to teach the philosophy. So in our movement, the women have always
preached philosophy, given classes, given lectures.
SP: Oh yes, oh yes. With the husband. She is always helping hand to hand the
husband.... Assistant.
JM: Does that mean that the girls should not give lectures and not give
classes?
SP: Why not? If she is a brahmana's wife, she can give lecture.
JM: Jadurani, for example, now she is no longer with her husband anymore.,
but she is giving classes, she is giving lectures. So is that good?
SP: Yes, yes. Why not? This varnashrama dharma, woman is according to the
husband. That's all. Jadurani is suppose to be a brahmana's wife, her
husband has taken sannyasa, so she can preach.
JM: So women can preach. They can give classes. They can give lectures.
SP: Oh yes.
* After receiving the confirmation from Srila Prabhupada, Jyotirmayi went on
giving classes in France. But the pressure from the American men became
stronger and stronger (such as telling the brahmacaris not to attend the
classes), and Jyotirmayi wrote to Prabhupada for his renewed support. At
that time, Srila Prabhupada did not write his letters himself anymore but
dictated his answers to his secretary. As it happened that both Jyotirmayi
and Bhagavan had written to Prabhupada at that time, each for a particular
question, Srila Prabhupada had his secretary Brahmananda answer them both a
common letter. The letter that Srila Prabhupada sent was confirming her
right to give classes in the temple. (Jyotirmayi)
Householder Life and Sannyasa As women were being demeaned, householder men
and householder life were also heavily put down, to the point that
householders were in great numbers trying to convince Prabhupada to give
them sannyasa. * "Regarding your separation from Nandarani, nothing should
be done artificially. Nandarani is no different from you. She also seeks
Krishna Consciousness. Your household life is not repugnant. It is
favorable. Do not separate artificially. When everyone is engaged in Krishna
's service, there is no question of maya. I have got good estimation about
Nandarani." (letter to Dayananda) * "If you have taken a wife for grhastha
life, why are you neglecting? That is not Vaishnava. Vaishnava means he is
very much responsible, and if he is householder, then he must be
responsible. I cannot give sannyasa to any devotee who has not proven
himself to be responsible in all respects. Better you prove yourself first
by being ideal householder and forget all this nonsense." (letter to
Mahatma, 1972) * This taking sannyasa should not be a whimsical proposition,
and should not be an excuse for becoming irresponsible, have no
responsibility as grhastha, brahmacari, etc." (letter to Danavir, 1973) *
"We are suppose to take husband or wife as eternal companion or assistant in
Krishna Conscious service, and there is promise never to separate. Of course
if there is any instance of very advanced disciples, married couple, and
they have agreed that the husband shall now take sannyasa or renounced order
of life, being mutually very happy by that arrangement, then there is ground
for such separation. But even in those cases there is no question of
separation, the husband, even he is sannyasa, he must be certain his wife
will be taken care of nicely and protected in his absence. Now so many cases
are there of unhappiness by the wife who has been abandoned by her husband
against her wishes. So how can I sanction such thing? ....But if it becomes
so easy for me to get married and then leave my wife, under excuse of
married life being an impediment to my own spiritual progress, that will not
be very good at all. That is misunderstanding of what is advancement in
spiritual life." (letter to Madhukara, 1975)
Conclusion If I usually write "many men" and not just "men," it is that a
certain number of them, especially amongst householders, objected against
the way women were being treated. But their effort to protect the women was
always quickly stopped as they ended up being ridiculed by their godbrothers
calling them "henpecked husbands."
The arguments presented here, as well as the anecdotes and letters referred
to, are certainly already known to and approved by most of the devotees who
have sincerely and objectively tried to understand the matter of women in
ISKCON. I have only tried to compile as many of them as possible in a
structured way to inform those who never thought the matter over and those
who are reluctant to make the necessary changes, being adverse or
insufficiently convinced.
Many of the wrongs done to women for so many years have now been corrected
and ISKCON women have recovered some of their rights. Unfortunately, they
have been rehabilitated only to higher or lesser degrees according to the
different leaders in different places. Much is still to be done for men to
fully recognize women's dignity, and for women to again assume that dignity
everywhere. Hare Krishna.
Proposal for Re-Establishing ISKCON Women in Their Spiritual Rights 1) Many
of the rights taken away from women have been given back to them for a
number of years now, to a different degrees in various temples. Again, they
are allowed to write articles, perform Deity worship, give classes in the
temple, take on various posts of responsibilities previously forbidden to
women. (Gurukula headmistress, head pujari, photographer, member of temple
administration or national council, etc.). Respect and proper behavior
towards women has also come back within ISKCON to a certain extent. Harikesa
Swami for example had a memo written to protect women from improper behavior
on the part of the men and leaders. Here are some excerpts:
* Whenever prasadam is served, it must be served simultaneously to both the
men and women...This is especially true at festivals. Sufficient sized rooms
should be allotted to the men and women for taking prasadam. The women
should not be made to wait till after the men eat. * It is a mental
concoction to strictly call men "Prabhu" and women "Mataji."..However,
calling the ladies "Mataji" is a sign of respect since everyone should
respect their mother. It is a very respectful term and should be used in
that way. If one uses the term "Mata" in a derogatory sense, then he is
using it wrongly. Neither does calling someone "Prabhu" imply automatically
that they are superior to a lady. Someone shall be known as higher or lower
according to their spiritual status, not according to their gender or social
opinion. * The women should be given equal facilities in the temple. It is
not that the men are given a lot of room to live in but the women must be
cramped up in their quarters. Both should have proper place to live and both
should get equal medical facilities and health care when sick. This
principle of equality should be extrapolated into all areas of temple life.
All practical considerations should be examined in this light and where
there is discrimination, it should be abolished. * If a women is a temple
president, temple commander, Sankirtana leader or department head, she
should be respected by the other devotees, either male or female. Anyone who
is a leader in ISKCON has the authority of ISKCON behind them and should be
respected. We should not tolerate that some male member of ISKCON will
disrespect some female temple president simply because she is female. There
must be respect of this position. * No guru, sannyasi or preacher may speak
in a derogatory way about women in classes or in discussions amongst men.
They must maintain this spirit of respect between men and women. This does
not mean, however, that we should not repeat the message of the shastras or
what we have heard from Srila Prabhupada regarding the dangers of
association between men and women. Rather, this means that there should be
no statements wherein the devotee women are seen as lower than the devotee
men, and therefore treated improperly...(Memo to the National Council of
Germany, from Harikesha Swami, GBC, January 1994)
2) There are very positive improvements but still more has to be done. And
these improvements should not be limited to only some temples or some zones,
but to the whole movement. To attain this goal, the re-establishment should
be one of the prime objectives of the GBC board as it concerns (children
included) half of the population of ISKCON.
In addition to what has been instituted by Harikesha Swami, in his zone,
here is a list of further situations to be corrected in our movement to
bring back Srila Prabhupada's original ISKCON.
* Men and women should both face the Deities again, each on one side of the
temple room during kirtans. * Men and women should both face the speaker of
the Bhagavatam or Bhagavad-gita class again, each on one side of the temple
room. * During festivals, both men and women should face the stage, each on
one side. * During special celebrations, both men and women should be
invited to sing and talk on stage, both on one side. * During guru-puja and
Vyasa-puja, women should be again allowed to offer obeisances in front of
the vyasasana and not anymore obliged to offer them in the back of the
temple. * While offering flowers to Srila Prabhupada during guru-puja, there
should be as in the past two lines, one of men, one of women, presenting
simultaneously the petals. Out of the two lines, one man goes, then a woman,
and so on. * The same should be done for offering ghee lamps during the
month of Damodara. * Japa should again be chanted by both men and women in
the temple room, sitting down in front of the Deities, men and women each on
their side. * During public preaching programs, men should be on side, women
on the other side. * While chanting in the streets, both men and women in
turn should give a short speech. * During Tulasi worship in the temple room,
there should be as in the past only one Tulasi for everyone, both men and
women devotees. * New devotee men should be taught to avoid intimate
associate with women (except of course their own wife), but they should not
be taught to hate and humiliate women devotees. * As much as men should be
taught to respect women as mothers, women should be taught to respect women
as mothers, women should be taught to see the men as sons. * Women should be
taught to respect each other and not feel contempt for each other. * During
festivals, while bathing the Deities, pushing Their swing or reading an
offering to Srila Prabhupada, first all the senior men and women should go,
then younger men and women; not all the men, then all the women. * As much
as both men and women are taught how to distribute books on Sankirtan, both
men and women should equally be taught how to give classes and public
lectures. * Women able to lead kirtans and bhajans with real devotion and
art should be allowed to do so. * Women should be allowed as before to
perform mangala-arati as well as 7 o'clock arati.
I surely have not covered everything in this list but at least a good part
of the problems women have had to face since about 1973, when Srila
Prabhupada could not personally oversee ISKCON's management anymore.
3) Because of bad habits acquired for so many years, what was so natural and
simple for devotees at the beginning with Srila Prabhupada will be very
difficult to institute again now. Most devotees having not known anything
else since the time they joined, will not want to change their ways,
thinking that doing so will be maya. And this attitude will come from women
as much as from men. Changing back to the way it was will also be accepted
more easily by leaders, by old and advanced devotees than by the mass of
devotees. Some will oppose strongly, some will be enthusiastic, and some won
't dare. It will therefore be necessary for the leaders to free the minds of
the devotees all over again, in a very practical way. * Temple presidents
should have regular ista-ghosthi's where all these points will be thoroughly
discussed until all objections will be defeated, everything clarified and
understood, and finally the mentalities changed.
Example 1: It will be objected that some temple rooms are too narrow for men
and women to be side by side. Some of our temples in the past were also
small and narrow, still there was no problem, just a small space was left
between the two lines of men and women, but no one ever sat or stood in the
reserved space.
Example 2: Some women will object that they cannot be shy if they come up
front. Women in the past were never considered immodest by Prabhupada
because of standing in front of the Deities and meditating on Them. So, if
Prabhupada did feel that way, do they think they know better than Prabhupada
how a woman should behave in Krishna Consciousness?
* Temple presidents, GBC's and heads of departments should see to the
application of the reformation of the women's condition day to day.
Example: Stop the men from pushing the women back to the end of the temple
room by progressively dancing more and more to their side and on the space
left between them and the altar.
Example: Not give in to the blackmailing of some men such as: "If a woman
gives class, I won't attend."
*Experienced lecturers should teach the women how to give class and prepare
it: proper state of mind, adequate reason for giving class, how to develop
erudition, how to capture the attention of the audience, etc. As they never
had the chance to practice progressively as the men did, they can start with
easier classes such as Chaitanya-Charitamrta classes or readings of
Prabhupada Lilamrta (where there is a lot of reading with just a few
comments). Once they feel more at ease, they will begin Bhagavad-gita
classes, then Bhagavatam classes when they feel ready. Often, there are no
weekly lists of who gives classes, who offers guru-puja arati. Just anyone
who feels like it goes up.
Women won't dare to just go up like that. There should therefore be weekly
lists so they may know when it is their turn, especially for classes. Women
will not give a spontaneous class as they have no practice. It is better
anyway for most devotees to prepare their classes to really teach philosophy
to their audience. * Women are so used to sitting passively back in class,
that they have often lost proper behavior. They often go in and out, lean
against the wall, sew or do other things rather than really listen and
participate actively, let their children move about noisily. They must be
taught again adequate behavior in class, respect of the speaker and the
listeners. Those who just listen, have no children or services should sit in
the front. Those with children or service should sit in the back of the
other women. Being side by side with men, the young children will more
easily disturb the men, and they should therefore be better controlled by
their mothers. Srila Prabhupada always wanted the children to behave
properly in the temple room. (*6)
4) Recovering Srila Prabhupada's sprit, as far as devotee women are
concerned, is of the utmost importance for our movement even though many may
not be conscious of it.
* To advance spiritually, women need examples, just as men have sannyasis,
GBC men, gurus, temple leaders. If older women are allowed to express their
realizations and knowledge through classes, their devotion through kirtans
and take great responsibilities for their spiritual master, younger women
will see them as examples to follow and will advance more and more. * When
on the contrary, they are trained to see all women as unadvanced,
unintelligent, incapable, etc., having no female example to admire and
follow, being unable to imitate men, as their services and association are
forbidden to them, they often despise other women and become sexually
attracted to advanced men devotees, either grossly or subtly. That is how
the phenomenon of "groupies" takes place, and how men leaders fall down.
* Immature men think that despising women and putting them down, "keeping
them in their place," proves their own worth. In reality, in societies where
men are truly confident of their own worth, women are not merely tolerated,
they are valued. Their opinions are listened to with respect, they are given
their rightful place in shaping the society in which they live. * Not only
has the prejudicial, hurtful behavior towards women stopped many men and
women from joining our movement, but it has made us fail to attract, or made
us lose, the interest and support of educated thoughtful seekers of
spiritual truth. * Whatever progress the movement has made since Prabhupada'
s arrival is been due at least as much to the efforts of women as of men
assisting him. But the women having been kept away from almost all decision
making and superior responsibilities since 1973, the problems and chaotic
situations which have befallen ISKCON since cannot be attributed to them,
but to the men only. Maybe listening to what the older advanced women had to
say would have helped to avoid many blunders. *
Some of the valid positions we have on controversial issues, such as
abortion, divorce, sex, birth control, women, children, lose a lot of their
impact and are much less convincing in large measure because of their being
presented by men instead of women, to whom these issues mainly belong. *
Srila Prabhupada built the movement on the foundation of Chaitanya
Mahaprabhu's unique contribution. No one is to be excluded from the
Sankirtana movement, regardless of gender, race, religion, age, social
status, or any material distinction. He made the necessary adjustment of
womanhood to modern Western situations, as he saw that following the
traditional Vedic definition would be completely anachronistic and impede
our movement. By not following in his footsteps and trying to overstep his
decisions, we bring a universal spirituality to the level of a sect, with no
contribution to make to the vital issues of our time. * As we celebrate
Srila Prabhupada's Centennial, the world prepares to celebrate the new
millennium. Those who wish to see Prabhupada truly honored this year will
acknowledge the universality of his message and its relevance to a world in
transition, a world in which the role and contribution of women will
continue to increase in size and scope. Hare Krishna.