Suggestion for 'my Dilemma'
Posted April 14, 2006
I suggest you try to concentrate your practice only on the auspicious days of Ekadasi. Otherwise, your husband may conclude that your practice is unreasonable. Look at this statement below from that the book Ekadasi Mahatmya:
"Since the living entities of Kali-yuga are short-lived and lusty, they are unable to perform severe austerity... ...Thus a minimum austerity in the form of fasting twice a month on the days of ekadasi has been prescribed for the people of Kali-yuga."
Also, it is OK if your husband does not follow. Consider the following statement from Vayu Purana:
"The woman who fasts on Ekadasi on behalf of her husband also gets the whole fruit, and her husband, say the sages who see beyond, gets without doubt the fruit of her fast a hundredfold."
So I recommend you just recite a small dedication like "I dedicate all the
piety of this Ekadasi vrata for my husband's benefit". Recite it before you
start, and your husband will gain great piety, and yourself as well! Then
negotiate just enough so that he can tolerate your Ekadasi practice, if
nothing more. Then just concentrate all your efforts onto the Ekadasis.