Could you be gay, and not know it?
Posted March 18, 2005
Logic, the Bible, the Vedas, modern and Freudian psychology, Carl Jung, neuron-synaptic-science, quantum physics, Deepak Chopra, Aldus Huxley, and even Lisa Simpson -- to name a few -- seem to agree on enough relevancies to drive a point. Our ill perceptions, faultfinding, phobias, and even crusades are self-driven projections and reflections of our very own selves. Comparing ourselves to the world and others, we battle against those observations, within ourselves and in our lives, which we demonize as the evils in others. Thus, we punish and criticize those others in order to "save face" and aggrandize ourselves beyond our self-inflicted feelings of guilt and inadequacy in our illusory, desperate search for identity. This is basic human nature -- fear and defending, as in "eating, sleeping, mating, and defending".
The basic agreement is that the living entity, blinded by darkness and ignorance, has no perception or conscious recollection other than the bombardment of sensory perception from the world around us. We are not able to conceive of faults in others unless we have those faults in ourselves, otherwise we would not be able to reflect on them with any sort of relevance or importance -- we would just see everyone as good, if we are good.
Srila Prabhupada said, "Even a child can take part in the chanting, or even a dog can take part". This statement is self-evident and requires no interpretation, we hope.
The compassionate and open-minded articles written by His Holiness Hrdayananda Maharaja, Vishaka prabhu and others are gentle approaches in pointing out the reality that lies before us, which really needs to finally be uncovered -- if for no other reason than to help us focus on real issues. So much commotion back and forth on this topic certainly merits two questions to be asked: "What is the problem?" and "whose problem is it really?"
We must ask each person who is crusading to keep gays from becoming devotees, from participating in the service of the Lord or, for that matter, from becoming soldiers: "My dear sir/madam, do you have a problem with gays? Are you perhaps, even, subconsciously gay or are you afraid of having gay tendencies? This is Kali Yuga, after all."
Studies have shown that all people have masculine and feminine gene balance disorders, as no one is truly constructed perfect -- especially these days. Psychologists have theorized from observation and studies that everyone has some gay tendencies, and new studies have shown that these gay tendencies seem to become more prominent, or disclosed more readily in men, as they get older.
Vishaka dasi's very clear and articulate solutions are undeniably the correct approach and strategy for this delicate issue, within this present time and circumstance -- unless of course you, the reader, have a problem with gays. If that is the case, you may feel intimidated, perturbed or perhaps even aroused at this whole discussion, and you may therefore be in total, adamant disagreement, probably in a very black-and-white mood with no intention of allowing any grey areas into the solution, whatsoever. Does that sound like you?
If that is the case, then we do have a problem -- mainly you. Nevertheless, the problem is not whether you are gay or have gay tendencies, which you are trying to hide from yourself and others. Rather, it needs to be carefully scrutinized whether or not in your 'denial' you are qualified to exemplify and make judgment or decisions that affect the lives of others. Now that is a problem that merits addressing and discussion!
The predicament is not the gay person who wants to give up his or her anarthas through the process of chanting. Rather, the dilemma is the proverbial Brahmana who carried the woman eight miles beyond the river in his mind, while the one who physically carried her dropped her off at the riverbank, unperturbed. You all remember the parable. No explanation needed here either. Who was the real Brahmana?
Without further belaboring the point, I beg to remind all of us that some things are just plain old common sense and should be treated as such, less we run the risk of exposing and embarrassing ourselves in a number of ways -- people in glass houses should not throw stones. All in all, 21st century common sense will tend to dictate, for instance, that if you are perturbed or angered by the truths outlined in this argument, then chances are that you are probably gay to one degree or another yourself, and you should rather look into your own shortcomings before crusading against gays. For God's sake, look where we all came from -- all of us!
Some relevant quotes:
"Use common sense, and if you have none, consult with someone who does" -- Srila Prabhupada
"The effects which follow the constant and intense concentration upon evil are always disastrous. Those who crusade, not for God in themselves, but against the demons in others, never succeed in making the world better, but leave it either as it was, or sometimes even perceptibly worse than it was before the crusade began. By thinking primarily of evil we tend, however excellent our intentions, to create occasions for evil to manifest itself. . . . No man can concentrate his attention upon evil, or even the idea of evil, and remain unaffected. To be more against the demon than for Godliness is exceedingly dangerous. Every crusader is apt to go mad. He is haunted by the wickedness which he attributes to his enemies; it becomes sort of a part of him." -- Aldous Huxley
"Do not judge, so that you may not be judged. For with the judgment you make you will be judged, and the measure you give will be the measure you get. Why do you see the speck in your neighbor's eye, but do not notice the log in your own eye? Or how can you say to your neighbor, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' while the log is in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your neighbor's eye. 'Do not give what is holy to dogs; and do not throw your pearls before swine, or they will trample them under foot and turn and maul you.' -- Matthew 7.
Unrelated, but good solace: "The soul, secured in her existence, smiles at the drawn dagger, and defies its point. The stars shall fade away, the sun himself grow dim with age, and nature sink in years; but thou shalt flourish in immortal youth, unhurt amidst the war of elements, the wreck of matter, and the crush of worlds." -- Joseph Addison
Some supporting research:
According to London's Daily Telegraph, Professor Lee Ellis and colleagues at Minot State University, North Dakota have found that mothers of homosexual daughters used thyroxine and amphetamine in pregnancy at higher frequencies than mothers of heterosexual daughters.
The researchers found that the mothers of homosexual women were at least five times more likely to have taken synthetic thyroid medications during pregnancy than mothers of heterosexual women, and eight times more likely to have used amphetamine-based diet pills such as Dexedrine and diethylpropion.
They also found evidence that some drugs have the opposite effect
during pregnancy, reducing the probability of homosexual offspring.
Mothers of heterosexual males were 70 per cent more likely to have
taken drugs to combat nausea than those of male homosexuals.